Yesterday Twitter and the blogosphere were buzzing about a Marie Claire blog post, Should “Fatties” Get A Room? (Even On TV), written by Maura Kelly. Take a moment and read it and then come back to this post…don’t worry, I’ll wait.
This article didn’t surprise me it made me a bit sad. Just one more thing in the blogosphere that is negative and mean spirited. I stopped reading Perez Hilton because I thought he was vicious. I feel bad when bloggers get mean comments about their outfits. I hate reading all of the negativity and hatefulness that we spew at each other through the anonymity of the world wide web.
When I read this post, I cringed. I didn’t comment, I didn’t say anything, I didn’t want to be mean or vicious. I actually just wanted to give Maura a hug. Why you ask? Because to me I felt like underneath her words against “fatties” she was really struggling with her own self image, as if she is just as uncomfortable with herself as she is with overweight people.
I’ve been a size 0 and a size 16 but no matter what size I was, I was happy and I loved myself. One thing you’ll notice in all those pictures is that I’m smiling because no matter what size I am, I have a good life, wonderful friends and an even greater family. I know that I’m beautiful whether a magazine (or blogger) tells me I am. I have brown skin, a gap, full hips and thighs and I am constantly changing and growing into the woman I know I am supposed to be. I am confident and I am happy with who I am at every stage in my life, no matter what size I am.
I have been a long time Marie Claire reader; Actually I am a huge magazine reader but I’ve always been irritated by the images of what’s considered normal or standard in most magazines. I’m not a size 2, fair skinned blonde woman. I hate that all black women are put in the “dark” makeup category. I’m sorry but we have a range that is just as broad as white women! I pick and choose what I think flatters me, I blog about what I know works for me, what I like in the fashion world and I’ve created my own positive image here on the the Art of Accessories. But not everyone is as fortunate as me (I’m looking at you, Maura Kelly). I am a bit shocked that her editor didn’t think twice about posting an article that would clearly strike a nerve but maybe that’s what Marie Claire wanted? To get folks up in arms? To get people to drop their subscriptions? Maybe. Maybe not.
I hope one day Maura Kelly loves herself enough to not worry about what others look like. I hope one day the magazine industry will recognize the beauty in EVERYONE and EVERY SIZE. I hope one day people will stop turning their own insecurities into hate and bigotry. I hope one day we realize that everyone is beautiful, unique and special.
So I’ll just say this and be done with it. Love yourself, then loving others will come naturally.
And if someone sees Maura Kelly on the street, please give her a hug for me. I think she might need it.